More Kindness Less Strife

More Kindness Less Strife

I was at a Toastmasters meeting recently and a question was posed: “If you were queen for a day, what would you do?” Three women speakers responded that they would bring more kindness to business interactions, to politics and to communication in general. 

Do you agree that we're longing for more kindness probably in many areas of our lives; in our families, with our spouses, at work and between political parties. We’re longing for more kindness, perhaps in all areas of our lives; at work, between political parties, between spouses and amongst strangers. 

With the fast paced habits of communication we've gotten used to via texting, FB and other social media, more of us are noticing too much strife and impatience and not enough kindness. Along with kindness, I believe we're longing for connection. Taking the time etc all good. Taking the time to sit with a friend and see the expression on their face as they share about their challenges and joys is worth so much. 

As Ghandi said so wonderfully, if you want to change something, BE the agent of change. Let’s challenge ourselves, especially during this Holiday season to act with more patience, more presence and certainly kindness. And, don’t forget to include yourself when you’re being kind!! 

Much JOY & Love to all of you - Lynn

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Hot & Handy RESOURCES to Make Your Life Easier:

• Cell Phone Emergency Info:
  • Cell phone companies charge for 411 info. For FREE access dial 800 FREE411 or 800 373-3411. Program it into your cell now. 

• Hidden Battery Power:  If battery is very low activate 50% increase by pressing keys *3370#. 

• Disable Stolen Phone by entering *#06# into phone and a 15 digit code will appear on the screen. It’s unique to your handset so write down now and keep somewhere safe.

• Emergency:  If you’re out of country the Emergency Number worldwide is 112.  Even if keypad is locked this can be dialed.

Recommended Books:

Proof of Heaven by Eben Alexander, M.D. 2012, Three things Dr. Alexander, previous sceptic, says he received from his near-death experience - 1) We are all loved and cherished. 2) There is nothing we can do wrong. 3) There is nothing to fear. 

Clean Sweet Assessment  

This is a great end of year, beginning of next year assessment to check your Life/Work Balance

betterme.org/cleansweep.html   

Tax Deferred Savings Calculator/Estimator

Provided by Linda Murdock, Financial Advisor of Gateway Financial Advisors, Patterson, CA

For those of you that want a quick and easy Tax-Deferred Savings Calculator this is really simple – love it. http://tinyurl.com/b97mppq

If you have any questions call Linda Murdock at 209  613-7900.

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Upcoming Events

NEW: FREE Monthly Webinar:  Women’s Inner Money Game & How to Win It  

Next Date:  Thursday January 17th 6:30 – 7:30 p.m. (PST)

Let’s start talking about how money shows up in your life (or not).

This Webinar will be part Action – what you CAN and need to do to make more money or manage it better and part Attraction which is about how to maximize your Mindset, stabilize and increase Energy and buzz up your JOY.

Click Here to register 

Lynn's 4th Annual PowerUP Your Business Strategic Planning Workshop for 2013!

Register Now - This always sells out quickly!

1. Do You Have a Money Making, Heart & Soul Inspiring Vision for Your Business in Place for 2013?
2. Are Your Goals, Strategies & Action Steps in place to Create The Success You Desire (& Deserve)?
3. In order to be Successful in Business Women need to have a Guiding Vision for your Business & the Systems in Place that Keep You Focused, Disciplined and Getting the RESULTS You Want.

Here's a Quick Look at What You'll Receive:

1. Are You Tired of the Cash-Flow Ups and Downs of Being a Solopreneur and Ready for Greater Financial Business Balance?
2. Do you Have These Systems in Place to Meet Your Goals More Effortlessly?
3. A Vision & Mission Statement that Sets The Overall Tone for Your Unique Business?
4. Data Base gathering System
5. Time Management/Scheduling to Keep Your Daily Actions on Track & Meet Revenue Goals
6. Daily Right Action Tracking to Know Exactly the Time Spent on Admin, Marketing & Revenue

When You Have Goals, Strategies & Actions in Place along with a Vision it ENERGIZES & MOTIVATES you to Stay on Track!

P.S. "Imagination is More Powerful than Knowledge."  Einstein 

Vision Board Experience is always included in this Workshop. When Logic & Imagination work together - Look Out!!

When:  Saturday January 12  9:00 - 2:00

Location:  TBA

Investment:  $125.00 ($25.00 Deposit Holds Your Spot)

Click Here to register

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Spotlight

Jenni Maiwald Wendell  

I love yoga because of the stress relief and the physical relaxation. "Jenni is very passionate about her new business. I'm excited to try the flow approach to yoga Jenni teaches that's conducted in a warm room and is energizing and relaxing at the same time." (Lynn)

Jenni, owner of Just Be Yoga & Meditation in Modesto says yoga balances the body, mind and spirit for physical well-being and mental clarity. Just BeYoga & Meditation offers Vinyasa Flow Yoga in a moderately heated room. 

There is a Beginner Series starting Jan 7th and Intermediate and Advanced students are welcome. Monday evening from 6:30 – 7:30 Jan 7th – Feb 11th. Cost $99.00 + you receive 6 weeks unlimited yoga and meditation.

To Register Click here

Just Be Yoga & Meditation

803 Coffee Rd. Ste. 9, Modesto, CA (across from Downey High School)

916 764-4962 

3 Keys to Happiness Now

Personal Note 

3 Keys to Happiness Now

Is Life is moving at the speed of light for you these days?  It certainly is for me.  Right now life is requiring our full concentration (i.e. the ability to FOCUS on the results our business needs and not get lost in time-wasters like FB, Pinterest, etc.).  Try setting a timer (Your smart phone has one or you can find them inexpensively at Radio Shack) for 30 minutes and then get back to work. Life also requires emotional presence (How am I feeling? What do I need?) and in general, really good self-care.

I taught a workshop last week called “3 Keys for Happiness Now” for the volunteer staff at The Parent Resource Center of Modesto, a non-profit dedicated to building healthier families.  What a fun time we had because the volunteers were so engaged and interested in “Happiness Practices.

In spite of the challenges of life - (illness, death, job changes, money problems) we can CHOOSE to be happy. It's one of the most powerful choices we have. I'm not suggesting we discount sadness or anger, but consciously open to them, which allow the energy of the emotionto move through us. It's resistance to emotion that builds into anxiety or depression.

Happiness requires intention and practice to cement the happiness neural pathways in the brain and override any negative neural pathways. If you’d like more on how to create Happiness two excellent books besides Intentional JOY http://lynntelfordsahl.com/buy-this/ are Happiness Now by Robert Holden and Happiness for No Reason by Marci Shimoff. If you follow the link to the Buy page there's a FREE Mp3 download of Intentional JOY with a 20 minute overview and Stress Busting Relaxation/Guided Imagery Practices you may enjoy.  

PS:  The Holidays are a good time to freshen up our happiness practices!!

Much JOY & Love to all of you - Lynn

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Winner of Money Survey and Results:

Congratulations to Joann Blaska, the winner of the Ipod. She thanked me by saying she’d never won anything before. Yeah Joann.  

Thank you to the 40 women that took the Survey.

I’ll write more about the results of the Survey at another time, but the title of the eBook voted in is: Prosperity, Power & Peace:  A Woman’s Guide to Financial Freedom.  Please hold the May 1, 2012 date of completion for me.

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Resource Grab Bag

1. Ever Lost or Broken your iPhone? 
   Since 2007 consumers have spend $5.9 billion to repair, replace or pay insurance deductibles for damaged iPhones says Michelle Singletary in "The Color of Money" (Modesto Bee 9-30-12).  A lot of insurance available is expensive with high deductibles but SquareTrade offers a plan for 99 for 2 years with a $50 deductible.  Check it out!! 


2. 15 Things We Now Know About Money & Happiness 
   Respect means more than money: University of California confirmed that relationships are far more important to most of us than money. When it comes to crafting sustainable positivity and life satisfaction, the strongest drives come from our peers' respect, love and admiration rather than possessions. When it comes to crafting a sustainable positivity and satisfaction, our strongest materials come in the form of our peers’ respect, love, and admiration, not possessions. The series of studies comprising these conclusions all led back to the exact same phenomenon, speaking of how our connections with others drive us far, far more than mad money ever could. From www.braintrack.com


3. Who is happier – The Self-employed or those who work for others? 
   No matter how much they make, business owners typically enjoy their lives far more than any other workers; in America, anyways. On the Gallup-Healthways Well-Being Index, their “overall well-being” boasted an impressive 72.5, followed by professionals at 71.5. Self-employed workers may spend more time on their tasks, but dissipate some of the stress with the additional autonomy and flexibility their situations inherently provide. http://www.braintrack.com/blog/2012/09/15-things-we-now-know-about-money-and-happiness/ 

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Upcoming Events

NEW: FREE Monthly Webinar:  Women’s Inner Money Game & How to Win It  

Next Date:  Thursday January 17th 6:30 – 7:30 p.m. (PST)

Let’s start talking about how money shows up in your life (or not).

This Webinar will be part Action – what you CAN and need to do to make more money or manage it better and part Attraction which is about how to maximize your Mindset, stabilize and increase Energy and buzz up your JOY.

Click Here to register 

Lynn's 4th Annual PowerUP Your Business Strategic Planning Workshop for 2013!

Register Now - This always sells out quickly!

1. Do You Have a Money Making, Heart & Soul Inspiring Vision for Your Business in Place for 2013?
2. Are Your Goals, Strategies & Action Steps in place to Create The Success You Desire (& Deserve)?
3. In order to be Successful in Business Women need to have a Guiding Vision for your Business & the Systems in Place that Keep You Focused, Disciplined and Getting the RESULTS You Want.

Here's a Quick Look at What You'll Receive:

1. Are You Tired of the Cash-Flow Ups and Downs of Being a Solopreneur and Ready for Greater Financial Business Balance?
2. Do you Have These Systems in Place to Meet Your Goals More Effortlessly?
3. A Vision & Mission Statement that Sets The Overall Tone for Your Unique Business?
4. Data Base gathering System
5. Time Management/Scheduling to Keep Your Daily Actions on Track & Meet Revenue Goals
6. Daily Right Action Tracking to Know Exactly the Time Spent on Admin, Marketing & Revenue

When You Have Goals, Strategies & Actions in Place along with a Vision it ENERGIZES & MOTIVATES you to Stay on Track!

P.S. "Imagination is More Powerful than Knowledge."  Einstein 

Vision Board Experience is always included in this Workshop. When Logic & Imagination work together - Look Out!!

When:  Saturday January 12  9:00 - 2:00

Location:  TBA

Investment:  $125.00 ($25.00 Deposit Holds Your Spot)

Click Here to register

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Spotlight

Jen Grondahl Lee

I met Jen in the Manteca Women's Success Networking Group and hear many happy testimonials about her helping women understand what the best choice may be when dealing with debt or other financial challenges.

"We help our clients overcome difficult financial situations using bankruptcy and non-bankruptcy solutions. Our focus is on long-term planning and achieving financial goals through strategic planning." 

Zenix Law, P.C.

Offices in San Ramon and Tracy

jen@zenixlaw.com

925-586-6738

Fall: Change is in The Air

Personal Note 

“Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself." Leo Tolstoy

Fall is the time of change, not just seasonally, but in our hearts and minds. Change is part of life and easier when we stay present, open to the changes and surrender rather than resist.

When September comes around every year my energy takes a dip as it does for so many of us that have been charging around all year.  It’s a natural dip, but one we don’t always listen to.  When I slow down a bit and rest, I don’t get sick. Cough, Cough. But, thankfully there’s Wellness Formula, an herbal concoction available at most health food stores, that boosts the immune system.  See how it is?  I like to believe there’s a remedy for nearly everything.

I’m reading Jane Fonda’s book Prime Time about the Three Acts of Life – Act I Is from birth to thirty, Act II is thirty to sixty and Act III is sixty on. She encourages a Life Review to feel, heal and put into perspective the ups and downs, the successes and failures of life.  I’m going to delve into this and if you do, let’s talk about the process.

Much JOY & Love to all of you - Lynn

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How do money fears or unhealthy money behaviors like overspending, too much debt, or not saving for the future block your success?

Money isn’t just about money – it’s about everything!

FREE 15 Minute Consult – Free Yourself 

(209) 492-8745

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Feature Article

Fall: Change is in The Air

3 Self-Care Strategies to Thrive in Times of Change

“Change is inevitable, growth is optional.”  I first started presenting seminars on CHANGE in 1991, which was another time of economic challenge, though not nearly as intense as this period, now named: “The Great Recession.” I think I’ll reframe that to “The Great Opportunity.” 

I don’t know how it is with you and the people in your lives these days, but what I’m noticing is “it’s (by “it” I mean everything) hitting the fan.”  Just a few examples: economic struggle, job loss, break ups, re-negotiating relationships, addiction problems coming to the surface, health problems, aging, babies being born, illness, etc. Whew…let’s all take 10 deep breaths.

If you’re feeling wiped out by the enormity of change that’s occurring personally and culturally, you’re not alone.  The good news is that all of these life events provide us with the opportunity to choose whether we will react out of habitual fear patterns or learn to respond with love, care, compassion and kindness to ourselves and those around us.

Three Self-CARE Strategies to Thrive in Times of CHANGE: (Read More) 

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Special Resource

Knock Out Dieting

New Non-Dieting book by Local author Signe Darpinian

I worked with dieting/weight concerns for over 10 years. I refer most of those folks to Signe now.  Intuitive Eating is a non-dieting approach that is more effective long term than any diet. Signe’s book is funny, short, concise and really helpful.  Here’s where you can order her book!!

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Upcoming Events

The Money Spa Women's Retreat

Oct 12-14, 2012  Friday evening – Sunday afternoon
At Beautiful Silver Ridge House in Tuolumne City, CA
 

$50.00 deposit holds your spot - $199.00 total + spa treatments with Cynthia Flesher $30-60
 

http://lynntelfordsahl.com/moneyspa

Warrior Bootcamp for Business

Oct 27th Saturday 9:00 – 5:00   p.m.  Modesto, CA  with Deborah Price, International Money Coach, author Money Magic & Lynn

For more information and to register click here now! 

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Spotlight

Shayna Howitz

I've known Shayna for a number of years and she is a very dedicated business owner, great team leader and her health products will help you increase energy and feel better!

I am a distributor for Awareness Life Mediterranean Health Products, "Products that help your body funtion the way nature intended."

209-602-3498 

www.shayna.awarenesslife.com

Why Can’t I Stop Shopping?

Personal Note 

“Summer time and the living is easy.” That song by George Gershwin is a good reminder about the purpose of summer. Water makes me happy and “summer time” is replenishing and renewing for this Pisces gal. 

My husband Dave and I are heading to North Carolina to visit my daughter next weekend. She lives on Lake Norman and has a boat so we’ll be out on the water and generally being lazy. I’m ready for a lazy week. Also love some of the local food such as biscuits and gravy and shrimp and grits!! 

Maybe it’s the hot weather, but I notice that some of the hyper-drive I’ve lived by the last 20 years has mellowed. Though I still work a lot, I’m relaxing more and focusing on enjoying life – especially the summertime. 

I hope all of you are doing the same. 

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I help women solve their money problems, make more money and enjoy financial peace. What does that mean? Let me ask a couple questions: What gets in the way of making the money you really know you’re capable of? How do money fears or unhealthy money behaviors like overspending, too much debt, or not saving for the future block your success? Money isn’t just about money – it’s about everything!

FREE 15 Minute Consult – Free Yourself (209) 492-8745

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Why Can’t I Stop Shopping?

“Things and conditions can give you pleasure, but they cannot give you joy.”

                                                                       Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now

Do stress and anxiety make us addictive? Stress and anxiety are at the highest levels I’ve seen in 30 years and cause a vulnerability to addictive escapes. The economy is a big driver, but it’s exacerbated by the amount of change and loss occurring – job, home or illness, and the fact that we’re not taught how to take care of ourselves in pro-active and loving ways.

Escapes do sort of work - a glass of wine (or 3 or 4) or a hit of pot, or shopping and certainly food, can distract us from life problems, but don’t solve them. If you find yourself relating, take a breath, and try to be nonjudgmental.

Shopping: MyVesta, a web-based financial health center, found that 49% of survey respondents overspent. Experts say 5% of the U.S. population could be full-fledged compulsive shoppers.  Check out Lynn’s comment in the NY Daily News Column 7-27-12 “I Know My Shopping is Compulsive – Why Can’t I Stop?” (Read More)

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Upcoming Events

FREE: Step-by-Step Financial Success

We Don’t Like to think about Divorce, Death or Taxes, but they happen anyway and we can protect ourselves.

Learn steps to take control of your financial & legal decisions and Identify Your Money Strengths & Challenges & ask questions of three financial experts.
& ENJOY Wine, Appetizers, Give-Aways!!

When:  Thursday Sept 13  Time:  6:00 – 7:30  Check-In 5:30
Where:  Fuzio’s Downtown Modesto 1020 10th Street
Register: http://lynntelfordsahl.com/step-by-step-financial-success/

Intuitive Artist:  Lynn Darpinian’s Workshop: 

Create A Spirit Doll Play Day 

When: Sept 22nd, 10-5pm PT
Where: Lynn’s beautiful home overlooking Dry Creek off Hwy 132. 
Fee: $89.00 Includes materials.
Call:  (209) 522-6846 to Register. Space Limited

Lynn is an inspired artist, creative spirit and dear friend. You don’t want to miss her.

Reserve Your Spot Now!

The Money Spa Women's Retreat

Oct 12-14, 2012  Friday evening – Sunday afternoon

At Beautiful Silver Ridge House in Tuolumne City, CA

$50.00 deposit holds your spot - $199.00 total + spa treatments with Cynthia Flesher $30-60

http://lynntelfordsahl.com/moneyspa

Warrior Bootcamp for Business

Oct 27^th Saturday 9:00 – 5:00   p.m.  Modesto, CA  with Deborah Price, International Money Coach, author Money Magic & Lynn

For more information and to register click here now!

Abundant Soul Women’s Event

Sat. Oct 13 10-6 (9:30 registration)
Where: The Seasons  945 McHenry Ave., Modesto 95350 
Only:  $97.00 

Seats are limited – Bring your sister, mom BFF’s, co-workers and all the women in your life!!

Women - Strengthen your internal body confidence

Susan ONeill Bremer
Self-Appeal Self Appeal® Coach, Speaker, Author, Workshop Leader

Saturday morning workshop
Classes: Aug. 18 & October 6,

For more information go to: 
http://www.selfappeal.com/upcoming-classes/

www.selfappeal.com, 209-765-4324

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Spotlight

Kathy Ray

 
Kathy Ray, CPP is a Modesto based Creative and Unique Portrait, Wedding & Event Photographer. She is one 8% of the Professional Photographers of America members holding the Certified Professional Photographer Degree and an Affiliate Volunteer for "Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep". This shows that with Kathy's qualifications, standards and her eye for detailed perfection, she creates emotional images that are lifelong treasures.

Fifty Shades Of Green

Personal Note 

Family, Vacations & How Much Money Is Enough

I’m in La Quinta on vacation visiting family. It’s 115 outside. I really love my family. What a contrast between last weekend at Lake Tahoe – 80 degrees and the 115 unbelievable heat of the desert. I can barely breathe. Whew!!

Speaking of vacations and time off. When I give talks about money to women in business I often ask the question how much money is enough for you to live the lifestyle you want to live? For my husband Dave and I, it’s enough to live in a nice tidy home (with a nice small house payment) in a cute little neighborhood close to everything, to work hard and here’s the important thing for us – to be able to afford to take 4-6 weeks off a year. That’s of particular value for us. It’s different for all of us, but what’s of value to you and how much is enough money are really good questions to figure out. (For Lynn's blog click here.) Americans don’t tend to value time off or leisure time as much as Europeans do. And, it’s not to say I don’t work a lot – I work plenty and I have time off. But, I don’t own a flashy car or expensive clothes. All about choice, right?

Back to Lake Tahoe – My friend Marianne, two newer friends Marni and Linda (picture) drove to Tahoe and stayed at a friends cabin. We had a blast. On Saturday we rode in a memorial bike ride for Jerry Shelton, Pam Shelton’s husband, who passed away a year ago riding Donner Pass. A group of about 15 of us rode around Donner Lake – 10 miles – far enough. Pam’s group rode Donner Pass – 35 miles straight up – good for them – not something for me. It was a really fun weekend and I was grateful to participate in the ride supporting Pam who is an amazingly strong, heart oriented woman.

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I help women solve their money problems, make more money and enjoy financial peace. What does that mean? Let me ask a couple questions: What gets in the way of making the money you really know you’re capable of? How do money fears or unhealthy money behaviors like overspending, too much debt, or not saving for the future block your success? Money isn’t just about money – it’s about everything!

FREE 15 Minute Consult – Free Yourself (209) 492-8745

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Feature Article

Fifty Shades of Green

What’s a bigger discussion taboo around the dinner table? (Adult dinner table, of course) Money or sex? No doubt about it, money.

If you’re a woman you’ve probably read “Fifty Shades of Grey” and have been talking about it with your friends. But I bet you haven’t talked about Fifty Shades of Green – a more important, serious (but less lustful & fun) topic than the characters of Christian Grey or Anastasia Steele ever could be.

It’s hard to talk about money. It’s stressful and scary. Money in the world of Fifty Shades of Grey is full of fun and fantasy – palatial apartments, new cars given to girlfriends, helicopter rides for first dates. (Hello handsome, sexy Christian Grey). (Read More)

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Upcoming Events

 Do You Have any of These $$ Scripts?

Money Circles for Women  Starts July 26th

Click Here To Register Now!

Do you long for someone to take care of you financially?

Do you think “rich people” are greedy?

Do you wonder how you’ll ever get ahead again?

Is self-worth & net-worth mixed up for you?

Do you undercharge? (Many self-employed women do)

Are You Ready to:

Be Financially Healthier and Stronger?

Break out of Your Financial Comfort Zone (& make more $$)

Develop Strategies for Financial Peace of Mind?

Women’s Money Circles is a 6-Week Webinar of up to 10 women. Here’s What You’ll Receive:

*Identify patterns that block success

* Know Your top 3 Money Challenges & What To Do About Them

* Chart the Action Steps to Move Forward

* Identify Your Money Type – Hidden Patterns that Limit or Enhance Success

Starts Thursday July 26th 6:00 p.m. – 7:30 p.m. (PST)

Register by clicking here!

Reserve Your Spot Now!

The Money Spa Women’s Retreat

Oct 12-14, 2012  Friday evening – Sunday afternoon

At Beautiful Silver Ridge House in Tuolumne City, CA

$50.00 deposit holds your spot - $199.00 total + spa treatments with Cynthia Flesher $30-60

http://lynntelfordsahl.com/moneyspa 

Warrior Bootcamp for Business

Oct 27^th Saturday 9:00 – 5:00   p.m.  Modesto, CA  with Deborah Price, International Money Coach, author Money Magic & Lynn

For more information and to register click here now!

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Spotlight

Miranda Palmer of ZynnyMe: Technology Coaching for Real People

http://zynnyme.com/ 1-209-602-1513

Check out this link to read reviews about Anxiety and Stress Reduction Apps put together by Miranda Palmer – a great resource for women & technology. http://zynnyme.com/blog/2012/5/18/app-reviews-anxiety-and-stress-reduction.html

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